‘Raja Ka Beta Hi Raja Banega’ remember this dialogue from the movie Super 30? Hits different, doesn’t it? The ratio of who’s your father to what are you capable of is what we call nepotism. It is based on favoritism granted to relatives in various industries such as politics, business, entertainment, etc.
Your parents or someone you know must have said something like, ‘he has a family background suitable for that career‘. It is very difficult to enter some professions without a successful family background in the same. For example, to be a successful politician you need a strong political background, to enter Bollywood you need Yash Raj Films or Karan Johar to launch you.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve scored better than your competition, if their father is a trustee, they get the seat. Nepotism is when position overpowers talent, thus taking away the chance for a talented individual to pursue their dream. Now, if you’re thinking this has everything to do with the Upper Class of Society then you’re mistaken. Laborers in a manufacturing plant usually belong to the same village or area. Coincidence? No! They too use their position to help their relatives get jobs.
In ‘Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham’ remember what happens when little Pooja from Chandni Chowk goes to a convent school? The students bully her to make her realize that she does not belong to the same social status as theirs. Hence she is treated poorly which leaves her heartbroken. If you haven’t seen the movie (Well, I doubt that), here’s the scene I’m taking about. Now, does this situation look familiar? I’m sure it does. You must have either bullied someone, been bullied or else just stood and watched someone get bullied. We all have and this is something we shouldn’t be proud of.
Since Sushant Singh Rajput’s suicide every third post on Instagram is about how star kids are an example of nepotism. So, I decided to share my take on the issue. I remember one of my friends telling me to not care about my attendance because his dad knew the Chancellor. It is not surprising that none of my friends accused him for nepotism, instead they all thanked him for the help. So, is it that we realize nepotism is a negative thing only when it does not work in our favor?
My dad has told me a number of stories about how his work life was a struggle. He had no other choice but to work as per the directions given by his seniors. These were the people who were not even qualified enough for their jobs. Not only my dad but many people would have faced the same problems and in response got the same answer- ‘Upar se orders hain’. A polite way of saying that you do not have the privilege to complain about the system even if it isn’t fair!
Employment should be based on the skill set and competency of the individual instead of their family connects. Undoubtedly, nepotism ensures loyalty but it does not ensure quality of work. If your son and another candidate are both applying for a position then selecting the other candidate isn’t a way of avoiding nepotism. Rather treating them both equally at the interview based on their qualification and ability is. As a parent, you can help your child learn the values of being a good human. You can always support them by encouraging them but growing professionally is something they will have to do on their own.
Together we can bring about a change in the society. To make sure that we do not become the reason for someone’s lost faith in work ethics, start appreciating talent over family name. You wouldn’t want to miss a ‘Phunsukh Wangdu’ for some ‘Ranchoddas Shamaldas Chanchad’.